Marriage in Krishna Consciousness

In Vedic culture four main divisions of society or ashrams are recognized: brahmacarya (celibacy), grihasta (householder life), vanaprastha (pre-retirement), sannyasa (renounced preacher).

Grihastas make up most of society and their contribution is therefore very great. The grihasta stage of life is the only ashram where people are engaged in financial activity and grihastas are therefore expected to be very generous. They are called upon to support the rest of the ashrams and to fund temples and other spiritual projects. That is their dharma (duty).

At the beginning of the movement, one newly-wedded disciple asked Srila Prabhupada for instructions on his new duties. He was expecting some lengthy explanations but Srila Prabhupada simply told him that before eating he should go outside and loudly call out three times, “Is anyone hungry?” and he should feed those who answer his call. The purport of this instruction is that grihastas should not be selfish or self-centred. They must serve and take care of those in the other ashrams.

It is the duty of householders to maintain peace in the world by following religious principles and raising their children to become Krishna conscious citizens! In the Srimad-Bhagavatam, King Rsabdeva advises that one should not become a parent unless one can liberate one’s child. This is indeed a big responsibility.

Ideal householder life may seem somewhat difficult in present daily life, but one should not be discouraged. There is a place for all levels of grihastas in Krishna consciousness and no matter what rung you may find yourself on, always remember the goal and work towards it.

It is important that marriage partners are compatible and like-minded so that the relationship is harmonious. This is a lifetime commitment where the question of divorce should never arise. Therefore choosing a partner should be done with a lot of deliberation. Conscious effort, mutual adjustment and sacrifice are needed to keep this sacred bond intact.

Those wishing to enter household life may take advice from the married devotees at the temple or you may contact us.